Denial, anger, depression, and grief are the universal emotions that we elicit when facing the death of a loved one. Losing someone we love allows us to lament and sometimes we even resort to some alone time to let everything sink in. However, grieving too much can bring forth adverse effects on the quality of life that we have. Grieving is, in fact, one way to overcome the sadness and allow the person to gather their experience and move on. Positive grieving provides closure and acceptance of the unwanted event. Nonetheless, some have succumbed to the effects of depression and drowned themselves in excessive mourning, eventually losing their productivity in life.
To spare ourselves from the negative upshots of mourning, we have to make sure that we still have a stronghold of reality. There are therapeutic ways on how we can go through the process of grieving that will help us overcome the sadness within without compromising our emotional and mental health condition. This article will provide practical ways to help oneself in overwhelming grief. As explained by Janeen Herskovitz, MA, LMHC, “Everyone reacts differently to grief, and how one reacts has a great deal to do with what happened and whether they’ve dealt with it appropriately.”
Create a routine. If you feel that the situation is starting to make you feel alone, you might consider creating a routine wherein you will still be able to perform your usual activities of daily living, especially self-care like personal grooming and attending to your physical needs. By doing so, you establish a constant pattern of reminding yourself that you still have things that need your attention as you preoccupy your mind with activities and will refrain yours from overthinking.
Set your goals. The death of someone might make us feel like dying too because of the unbearable pain that we are experiencing. However, this should not be the case. You must set goals of surpassing this ordeal. Setting goals could aid and assist in alleviating these frustrating feelings or circumstances. Planning or making a head start can increase your productivity enabling you to achieve the goals set forth.
You are only sad, but not paralyzed. Exercise triggers the body to release endorphins that are responsible for activating the receptors in the brain that cause us to feel lighter and happy. “Exercising regularly is one of the easiest and most effective ways to reduce the symptoms of ADHD. Exercise has been shown to improve concentration, motivation, memory, and mood. ” says Staci Lee Schnell, MS, CS, LMFT. It enables the person to have a good mood, feel better towards self, and have a good night’s rest.
Food is life. When a person is depressed, it’s either they eat too much or not eat at all. Either way, the practice can lead to detrimental effects. Remember to eat correctly and not to neglect your body from nourishment. It’s not the end of the world for you, so quit feeling sorry for yourself.
Recharge and sleep. A rested mind is a healthy mind, so get some sleep! Sleeping does not only replenish the lost vibrancy and dynamism of the body but also relaxes it from the hard day’s work. It facilitates recuperation of tissues from the wear and tear of the day. Getting some sleep also enables the mind to rest, thus allowing it to analyze and recognize things better and clearer.
Memorialize Your Loved One. When you commemorate the life of your dearly departed, feelings of appreciation and happiness override the feelings of sadness. Remember how the person lived and the pleasant things or activities that you did together when he/she was still alive. By remembering the good times, you will also feel contentment and the realization that the person has lived a significant life can help console you. Note that “Each person’s experience of grief is unique, so it’s unlikely that any one individual’s experience will be the same as another’s.” Lindsay Henderson, Psy.D. said.
Knowing these, we are reminded that grieving can be a therapy for us to be able to accept the reality of death. It should not be the other way around. Healing should be the product of grieving, which will enable us to move forward with faith and hope.