Grieving becomes more consoling with the presence of a support system; it becomes more bearable knowing that the people around you are aware of the emotional battle that you have to deal with. It somehow assures you that the people around you will understand your sadness.
Ryan Parks, M.Ed, LPCC used to say that “Our society tells us that if you talk about your issues, express your feelings, or even verbalize you have a mental health disorder, you must be “weak.”.” However, this is not the case for people who are undergoing disenfranchised grief wherein the society does not acknowledge the pain that someone has to go through or been going through.
The social acceptance of sadness is only entitled to the immediate family members, but to those who are not welcomed to the life of the person, they will just be contended on the unacknowledged grief like a wall has been erected to cover up the misery.
Death of an ex-lover, someone you look up to or even the death of your pet can be very painful for some; however, society sees these situations as illegitimate or unnatural because there is no personal attachment or the degree of relationship is far different from a legitimate and immediate familial relationship.
Disenfranchised grief is like an unbranded sorrow that no matter how you show your emotions, nobody will honor it and see any reason for you to mourn at all. The emotional dilemma that you have to go through with this kind of grief can affect your life as well. This unrecognized mourning may even result in more severe emotional and psychological issues, because the person going through this has no stable support system making the person feel abandoned and misunderstood by the rest of the group. The sadness may even lead to depression and may disrupt the disposition of the person. Undertsand that “Grief is a part of life we must embrace. Many people are grieving, feeling alone and overwhelmed. It’s important to remember that tears are like small messengers of unspeakable, indescribable love.” Debbie Augenthaler, LMHC, NCC said.
When a person conceals the sorrow, it can be like a dormant volcano waiting to erupt and spew detrimental and noxious emotional disturbances.
You Do Not Have To Grieve Alone
“When people are given a supportive environment and a safe relationship, they can let down their guard and heal.” Lisa S. Larsen, PsyD explained. Despite the unrecognized grief that you might have or will be having, you have to remind yourself that you do not have to carry the burden all by yourself. Seeking psychiatric assistance can help you deal with the situation. Sometimes all we need to have is someone who will listen to us. Confiding your emotions to a psychiatrist will help you release the pain you have been carrying inside your heart. Psychiatric counseling can be your support system for you to be able to go through the complete process of grieving. This can be a better avenue for you when you start talking about the person or your pet without the feeling of being judged along the way. Psychiatrists can assist and provide you the right coping skills to overcome depression and give yourself the right to mourn.
You can find a psychiatrist in your location by searching on the internet. Sometimes they also accept telephonic and brief talk, but it is best if you set an appointment and meet with the psychiatrist personally.
Other forms of obtaining psychiatric help are through online counseling. If you have a stable internet connection, a tablet or smartphone, then you are good to go. Some of these online services are free while high-end psychiatric consultations may require some form of payment.
Whatever method you choose, talking with a mental health professional is your best option to help you express your grief and move on.