How To Tell Others About The Death Of A Loved One

Sharing the sad news that a loved one has died is a crucial role, regardless if you are speaking with a close friend or a family member. The death will surely shock those significant others, especially if it is unexpected, as the reaction of the first close person who knew about this sad news. Even when the death is expected, especially for terminal illness, the grieving people may think that they are ill-equipped to deliver the news of death. To have the courage to tell others, one must prepare the appropriate lines that he will be giving because these words are likely to stay with them for a long time.

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It is crucial not to use the social media immediately such as Twitter and Facebook to broadcast the news because it can be dangerous to some reading it especially if they are suffering from heart diseases. Family members must be the persons to be informed first of the sad reality in order not to create confusion and misunderstanding among each other. Then after that, it may be the time to notify other persons close to the dead member of the family.

Telling Family Members

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Is it appropriate to tell family members about the bad news in the middle of the night, or while they are at work, or school? Only the person close to them knows the answer. One must consider many things before breaking the information. Are they emotional or suicidal? Do they have a scheduled school exam, or are they driving a car? The best way to tell family members is in person, but if it is impossible, calling them through phone can do. So how can a person break the news personally? Here’s how:

Invite Them To Sit Down And Pay Attention To Your Words

There are many cases that upon knowing the death of their loved one, they faint or their knees buckle making them fall in the floor. Another tip is being near to their body and holding them to prevent sudden unpleasant reactions.

Words Can Either Be Comforting Or Hurting

It is vital to the person who will tell the news to choose his/her words carefully. Phrases such as “passed away,” “gone to a better place,” or “passed on” is recommended to be used to those having a weak heart. It is optional to some because they would instead prefer the appropriate words that their loved one has died. Specific details may be told if one feels they need to say it all. Finally, ask them if there is something they need to know further to clarify things.

They May Use The Person Telling The News As Their Shoulder To Cry On

He/she may encourage them to burst out the emotions they are feeling now such as sadness, fear or anger.

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Death of a loved one, in the view of most people, is an arduous trial that one may experience. Significant others have the right to know, even though it may cause them pain. When informing about the death of a close person to them, remember to deliver the news thoughtfully. It is important that they feel the presence and the love from the deliverer of the sad news.

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