Forgiving The Bad

Here is a bit of news that is going to be hard for people reading this to swallow. There is no reason at all for you to be angry at the deceased. They could have been the worst person without a shred of doubt, but you must learn to forgive because you will never be able to settle whatever transgressions that hurt your relationship. This article is going to cover how to embrace misdeeds that can hurt you mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. However, we must stress that to forgive the dead entirely you need to all four of these for any issue as we will show. This is why we are going to cover the same misdeeds in every one of the four categories so that you can do so yourself.

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Forgiving Mentally

*Left In Time Of Need

This is the hardest to forgive mentally because that breaks the bond of family and doubly so when in most cases you have always been there in their time of need. You could not let yourself get angry at the dead for such reasons especially if you were there. Remember, “The strength of forgiveness has been shown to have a powerful buffering effect on stress. Those who are highly forgiving of themselves and others have a far less chance of having a mental illness.” Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. said.

*Repeatedly Broken Your Heart

Well, the only way to mentally heal is to move on. I know that it can be hard to have emotions for someone who does not have those emotions back, but that is life. Another fact of life, there are thousands of fish in the sea.

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*Died Without A Belief

The types of the mental gymnast to get upset by someone else’s faith is on par to the athletism required to forgive someone of the same deed. In short, you are on your own in this one mentally, but more often than not you are not too troubled with this.

*Attempt To Kill You/Your Family

Understand that if they are dead instead of you, then that must have meant that a miracle happened. Understand as well that “Not all people who have thoughts of suicide end up acting on those thoughts. But for those who do, generally there is deep emotional pain combined with a belief that things will never improve.” says Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC.

Forgiving Emotionally

*Left In Time Of Need

Now as long as you did not stop helping them and that has something to do with their death then emotionally forgiving someone is easy. All of the feelings towards the person (hatred, disappointment, etc.) should evaporate when you think of that person no longer being on this Earth.

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*Repeatedly Broken Your Heart

This is the hardest to forgive emotionally because it opens cracks for trust issues to leak into your relationship. The best advice that I can give is to remember that not everyone is the same. If you meet any guys who reminded you of the last one, then move on or switch teams for a while.

*Died Without A Belief

The same thing I said about forgiving someone mentally can be applied here as well.

*Attempt To Kill You/Your Family

Confide in your family about what happened. I am sure their advice alone will help you forgive you would be murderer emotionally.

Forgiving Spiritually

*Left In Time Of Need

Plainly say a prayer and hope for the best. Your religious book of choice will help here.

*Repeatedly Broken Your Heart

Unless otherwise stated let us just assume that all you must do spiritually is say a prayer.

*Died Without A Belief

This is something that cannot just be forgiven quickly in this regard. Due to all the types of religions in the world, I am sure your book covers what happens to nonbelievers.

Forgiving Physically

*Left In Time Of Need

Many of these misdeeds will not believe any physical scars, so all you needed to do is not get hit during your arguments.

*Repeatedly Broken Your Heart

Well as long as they did not literally break your hurt then it is possible to forgive them.

*Died Without A Belief

Just take a peek at what I said about solving this issue emotionally to find the solution here.

“Spiritual wellness is related to your values and beliefs that help you find meaning and purpose in your life. Spiritual wellness may come from activities such as volunteering, self-reflection, meditation, prayer, or spending time in nature.” –Marjie L. Roddick, MA, NCC, LMHC

 

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